5 Reasons Why Marriages Fail...Even Among Christians
Let's start off with what everyone knows: About 40 to 50 percent of marriages in America end up in divorce. Let's follow this up by a little-known fact that the divorce rate among regular church attendees is 38 percent. This is not really high compared to the national average, but it is enough to stir concern among church goers.
It seems unthinkable that Christian couples can be vulnerable to breakups. But one must bear in mind that Christians are also human beings prone to frailties just like everyone else. And while they may have a deeper knowledge of the sanctity of marriage, there is a lack of appreciation thereof.
You might be surprised to know that the factors that lead to breakups between Christian couples are the same as the others. The only difference is the effort by which Christians would most likely try to work things out on worries of what others in church might think. Nevertheless, according to The Asian Parent, there are reasons for every failed marriage and here they are:
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First, infidelity. Extramarital affairs are rarely heard of in church, but it happens. The parties involved are usually those who are not rooted in the Word and have not fully surrendered their weaknesses to God. The best way to avoid this is to extinguish the smallest hint of attraction to a married person.
Second is losing interest. One is supposed to be in love with the person that he/she marries. But there are those who only love the person's trait or appearance. A woman who swooned over her husband's charm will lose interest if she discovers his obnoxious habits. A man who fell for his wife's beauty may not feel the same anymore now that she's 40.
Third, irresponsibility. An irresponsible person will first lose the respect of his/her spouse then the love. Marriage is hard work especially with kids. Its success depends heavily on the effort and cooperation jointly put in by the husband and wife. It's easy to hate a person who doesn't care at all.
Fourth is financial problems. Yes, financial problems can happen even to responsible couples. They can be responsible with everything, except their finances. The common culprit is violating the most basic rule on budgeting: spending more than what one earns. To avoid this, follow this other old-school advice: Live within your means.
The last reason is a lack of appreciation. As the years roll on, most couples tend to take their partners for granted. Gone are the thoughtful gestures and displays of concern that ironically led to their union. This is dangerous as it may lead to loss of interest which can be filled by someone else. It could have been avoided if the partners only took note of each other's hard work.
