Joe Beam

CP Guest Columnist

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Dec 2, 2017
My Spouse Is in Love With Someone Else
Finally, you made the discovery. Maybe you checked the cell phone bill, read emails, found a note or letter in a pocket or purse, or, even worse, someone saw them and told you about it. When you confronted, denial reigned.
Nov 27, 2017
What Do I Do If One of Us Has Had an Affair?
It's a fact of life of the modern world. Surveys differ as to the exact percentage, but I think my friend Bill Harley, author of His Needs, Her Needs, is on target when he states that 60 percent of American marriages are affected by an extramarital affair sometime in the course of the marriage.
Sep 18, 2015
Should We Make Love If We Are Separated?
For those who ask about lovemaking with a spouse while you're separated: I address this both as one who works with marriage problems and my role as a sexologist. I give only three reasons FOR and three reasons AGAINST.
Sep 9, 2015
How to Get Over Limerence After Ending an Affair
Though it hurts some whose spouses are in limerence to hear this — and I hate that it will hurt them — I wish to speak to your emotions, not only for you but for others who read this who are in similar situations.
Jun 8, 2015
Pornography's Devastating Effects on Marriage
Typically written in female hand, one of the top five questions from Christian audiences goes something like this, "As long as we both enjoy it, isn't it okay for us to watch porn to spice up our lovemaking?" That question from a church audience shouldn't surprise us. In America about 15% of men and nearly 5% of women compulsively use porn. There appears to be many Christians within those numbers.
May 29, 2015
7 Ways to Save Your Marriage If Your Spouse Wants Out
However, in my experience working with couples, giving up usually occurs far too early. There is a definite consequence when you accept that it's over and emotionally, mentally, and physically disconnect from your spouse. That won't bring him or her back to you.
Aug 14, 2014
Wealthy Marriage Problems
In workshops for marriages in crisis, leaders often note that those couples in which one mate is very successful or earns quite a bit of money have unique situations that call for unique solutions.
Jul 31, 2014
4 Marriage Miracles
Though no one can guarantee them, they happen quite often. Marriages beyond hope by any reasonable standard turn around, become stable, and grow into a wonderful relationship. Though nearly everyone, especially the couple involved, thought it impossible, war evolves into peace and rage turns into romance.
Jul 18, 2014
How to Win Back Your Husband or Wife
She didn't hesitate a moment. Yes, she wanted to save her marriage. She and her husband were 40ish, married about twenty years, with a couple of children. One evening he told her he was in love with his assistant, that he already had a lawyer, and suggested she procure one for herself.
Jul 16, 2014
What Wives Can Do For Husbands Who Have Lost Their Jobs
"My husband has been 'downsized' and now he mostly lies around the house doing nothing. Every time I ask him if he sent out more resumes or looked for a job, he gets angry and we wind up in a fight. What can I do to help him?"