Joe Beam
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How to Save a Marriage After an Affair
Divorce breaks the hearts of those involved — couples, children, parents, friends, church, and the heart of God. One of the greatest underlying events destroying marriages today is adultery. The following is a frank and spiritual message on how to save a marriage after an affair.
Sexless Marriage Help and Information
One unexpected finding was that sex is not happening as much as most folks thought. The research indicates "about a third have sex with a partner at least twice a week, a third have sex with a partner a few times a month, and the rest have sex with a partner a few times a year or have no sexual partners at all." How do those numbers change if you leave out singles and consider only those that are married? It seems that 20% of married couples between the ages of 18 and 59 have sex with each other
Leaving One Spouse Does Not Guarantee a Happy Life With Another
"I just want to be happy." We hear that regularly from people who want to end their marriages. The premise is simple: I am not happy in this marriage but I will be happy if it ends. Typically, they believe that when freed from this marriage they will develop a new and blissful relationship with someone else.
Do I Have a Soul Mate?
Limerence is being madly and overwhelmingly in love to the point of obsession. While it incorporates some dimensions of the agape (Ephesians 5:28) and phileo (Titus 2:4) forms of love that Christians are familiar with from Scripture, it also has several shovelfuls of eros mixed in. One in the throes of limerence thinks constantly about the limerence object (LO, the designation used to identify the one the limerent is madly in love with).
Reasons to Stay Married
He began to weep. Not simply moist eyes or mild tears; he openly sobbed. When I asked what I said that had hurt him so badly, he replied, "I just realized I'm not a fool."
How to Help a Marriage in Trouble
What do you do when you know a couple has marriage problems, but you have no formal training in how to help? The most important thing is to care enough to do something. Far too often, people do nothing because they fear they might do the wrong thing. While it is possible to do the wrong thing, doing nothing is DEFINITELY the wrong thing.
What to Do With a Controlling Spouse
When the subject of controlling relationships came up, he was quick to tell how controlling his wife was. Not unusual: Often the person who is the most controlling is the one who feels the most controlled.
What To Do When Your Spouse Wants Out
"Everything I do just seems to drive him further away. I know God can save my marriage. But John wants a legal separation so I'm giving him one. I figure it would be better not to fight him and that if I go along with him it will calm him down so that later we might be able to repair our marriage." With those words, she ended several minutes of describing her marital situation.
Should You Stay Married for Your Children?
Our culture seems to think that one should not consider his or her children's emotions or desires when contemplating divorce. Instead, one should consider his or her own emotions and desires. Some believe that the children will be better off if the parent is happy, even if they suffer for a while because of their parents' divorce.