Does Dating to Find 'the One' Make Any Sense? (Video)

By Alex Murashko, CP Contributor Sunday, February 14, 2016

Pastor Naeem Fazal Pastor opens up our two-week series love, speaking into the lives of non-married couples and singles at Mosaic Church in Charlotte, North Carolina, February 10, 2016. | (Photo: Screengrab/YouTube/Mosaic Church-Charlotte)

If you are prone to one heartbreak after another when it comes to relationships, it may be time to rethink the common belief that dating is about finding "the one" who will complete you, said author and pastor Naeem Fazal during a recent sermon.

"When it comes to dating, love, relationships, and marriage, I think our expectations about marriage, our expectations about dating, finding the person, all that, we seem to be a little gullible, not really sensible," says Fazal, in a video that shows his first message in a two-part series, "Match.Me," at Mosaic Church in Charlotte, North Carolina. "Because a sensible person, the scriptures says, watches their steps. I just want us to be sensible people and watch our steps."

WATCH PASTOR NAEEM FAZAL'S MESSAGE TO SINGLES BELOW

He explains further, "The first thing we think we need to do in getting into a relationship is to find the one. The second step is we fall in love. And then we put our hopes and dreams on that person, [i.e.,] They complete me or whatever. That's the trend and then maybe, just maybe, it does not happen.

"If it doesn't happen we go back to step one" and sometimes, tragically repeat the process over and over again, he said. "So many of us get into a relationship and it's devastating."

This was the hardest talk for me, might be the most hopeful talk for you, if you are a single adult https://t.co/sTNQ5q3wSU via @mosaicclt
— Naeem Fazal (@naeemfazal) February 10, 2016

Alex Murashko is currently working with One Ten Pictures as an associate producer, developing and working on projects that include stories about people and organizations making a difference in this world as ambassadors for Christ. He previously was a Church & Ministry Editor/Reporter for The Christian Post. He also worked at the Los Angeles Times Orange County Edition and at the Press Enterprise in its Southwest Riverside County bureau. Website: AlexMurashko.com.