Lord, Help Me Change! I Can't On My Own
Matthew 12:43-45 "When an unclean spirit goes out of a man, he goes through dry places, seeking rest, and finds none. Then he says, 'I will return to my house from which I came.' And when he comes, he finds it empty, swept, and put in order. Then he goes and takes with him seven other spirits more wicked than himself, and they enter and dwell there; and the last state of that man is worse than the first..." (NKJV).
Many use this verse to caution Christians, but the context is rejecting Christ: "The unclean spirit leaves for a time, but when he returns, he finds Christ is not there to shut him out; the heart is swept by outward reformation ... and the man becomes a more decided enemy of the truth. Every heart is the residence of unclean spirits, except those which are temples of the Holy Ghost, by faith in Christ" (Matthew Henry).
But there is a very important principle that we can learn: We must fill our heart with the things of God. The demons returned and found the heart void of God ... void of truth.
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"No good parallel has been cited for the journeying in waterless places, but the imagery is probably based on the idea that the demons will move naturally in realms where conditions are antithetical to human well-being, and devoid of the blessing of God" (John Nolland).
Nolland is spot on. Demonic activity will move naturally in realms where conditions are opposed to our well-being and devoid of the blessing of God. They look for and feed on environments where God is absent, such as our entertainment choices. Movies like Fifty Shades of Grey, Hot Tub Time Machine 2, The Woman in Black, and so on hinder your relationship with God. We either provide fertile ground for Satan to work, or fertile ground for the things of God to grow. Ephesians 4:27 tells us not to give the devil a foothold. A foothold is a secure position that allows him to make further progress. And our mind is the battlefield.
We pray and ask God to do something, but often forget about our responsibility to obey. We have responsibilities, yet we are totally dependent on God. We must do our part, but we can't do His. When we abandon God's plan for our lives, we abandon His covering ... His shelter ... His protection.
How can we position ourselves in the will of God and not give the devil a foothold?
Expose sin.
Sin grows and flourishes in the dark, but loses power and influence when exposed. The website, Setting Captives Free, says, "When your sin is hidden many things happen. First there is deception in that you can 'handle' this yourself (pride). When you are at that point, you no longer look to the Lord for your help. Then there is shame because you are living a deceptive dual life."
Eventually, we get to the point where we cannot even look another Christian in the eye because their lifestyle convicts us. One online contributor to Setting Captives Free wrote, "Because of the overwhelming shame and guilt I felt, I ran to alcohol to numb myself because I didn't want to feel the very things the Lord was using to get my attention...My heart began to get harder and harder. Sin is debilitating, exhausting, and paralyzing...Fortunately, there is a way out!"
Safeguards keep us from falling.
Safeguards are guardrails through the canyons of life. Drastic change requires drastic measures. When people fall it's often because they use a baby gate to guard a lion. We can be quick to repent, but unless safeguards are in place, we'll fall again. Once a person goes back to sin, life doesn't get better. It may at first — one of the enemies deceptions is to delay the consequences — but eventually, "The last state of that man is worse than the first."
Here are a few helpful suggestions: 1) There are Apps that allow parents to monitor text messages that kids send and receive. There is definitely a healthy level of freedom and privacy that we shouldn't infringe on, but accountability isn't infringement. 2) There are also Apps that monitor unaccounted time. Sadly, we don't always want change bad enough; we enjoy freedom without responsibility. 3) There is also website accountability available that can send all the websites visited to your spouse, or a friend.
Checking in with those who love you and will help is also another great safeguard. Keep in mind that true friends build up, they don't tear down. If "friends" are influencing you to drink, supplying you with addictive meds or drugs, emailing or texting porn, or causing you to stumble in any way, they're not friends — they are pulling you away from God — end the relationship. I'd rather be lonely and loving God, then have friends who pull me away. Or as an old preacher once said, "I'd rather be lonely going up then have company going to hell."
Avoid triggers that motivate sin.
Some practical examples involve avoiding the internet when alone, or turning a lonely Friday or Saturday night into a night of worship, prayer, and the study of God's word. Many churches, such as ours, meet on Saturday nights for this very reason. You can wake up in the morning filled with the Spirit versus waking up depressed and suicidal. You'll go to bed with God on your mind, versus waking up and not remembering what happened.
Lastly, avoid places that fuel lust.
This isn't rocket science: "The mind governed by the flesh is death, but the mind governed by the Spirit is life and peace" (Romans 8:6 NIV).
How do you spend your time and money? This speaks volumes about what you truly cherishes ... the things of God or the things of the world? Seek Him ... He will not let you down.
