What to Do If Your Boyfriend Wants You to Get an Abortion
4. Know your facts so you can fight for your child and yourself.
Here are some resources I've pointed to in an earlier article:
You can read up on the scientific, moral, and philosophical bases for defending human life.
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You can learn a lot of information by going through this well-done and very interesting research paper that covers several aspects of abortion, including possible mental and physical health effects on women.
Here are ultrasound and other images, a heartbeat recording, and developmental info of unborn babies at various ages.
Accurate descriptions of what happens in two of the most common forms of abortion can be found here (suction abortion) and here (D&E). The Silent Scream is a YouTube video of an actual abortion that shows a baby trying to escape. Interestingly, the doctor who performed the abortion in this video quit after he saw the video because what he was actually doing bothered him so much.
The girl is moving in the womb; displays a heartbeat of 140 per minute; and is at times sucking her thumb. As the abortionist's suction tip begins to invade the womb, the child rears and moves violently in an attempt to avoid the instrument. Her mouth is visibly open in a "silent scream." The child's heart rate speeds up dramatically (to 200 beats per minute) as she senses aggression. She moves violently away in a pathetic attempt to escape the instrument. The abortionist's suction tip begins to rip the baby's limbs from its body, ultimately leaving only her head in the uterus (too large to be pulled from the uterus in one piece). The abortionist attempts to crush her head with his forceps, allowing it to be removed. In an effort to "dehumanize" the procedure, the abortionist and anesthesiologist refer to the baby's head as "number 1." The abortionist crushes "number 1″ with the forceps and removes it from the uterus.
You can also find good videos, ads, and documentaries about abortion and help for pregnancy from many different organizations.
Conclusion
In the end, remember that you are fighting for your child and for yourself as a mother. You are the only one who is this baby's mother, and his life is very much in your hands. You are strong, and you are capable; you were made that way. And you are already a mother. Not a potential mother. One right now, in this moment.
So fight with all you have for the life of your baby. And find someone who will fight for you. If you believe in Christ, you know that you already have Someone Who is fighting on your behalf right now. And He has already conquered death.
I'll close with the beautiful words of a young mother whom I had the privilege of talking with. Despite her boyfriend's opposition (which changed after she wrote this) and her parents' disapproval, she gave life to her baby girl:
I know you're scared. I was so scared and my ex wouldn't even let me tell my friends. I felt so alone, but when I finally told them I got so much support and my best friend even went with me to tell my parents. Sometimes you need that buffer. … I would at least listen to your baby's heart beat. That literally chanced my mind completely. …
I even went with my ex-boyfriend (the father of my daughter) to the first appointment to get an abortion. But as soon as I heard her heart beat I knew I couldn't do it. My boyfriend pressured me but I knew that no matter what even if I gave her up for adoption at least she would be alive. … I didn't want my mom to know either and I hid my pregnancy from my parents actually till about a few weeks ago. (I'm 6 months pregnant now). It didn't go well, so I understand how hard it is. I'm not even on speaking terms with my parents. But at least I know that my daughter will have my love no matter what. My ex is barely in the picture only coming around when he feels like it. The are places that can help you. my advice would be to at least hear your baby's heart beat. Believe me it is probably the most amazing thing I have ever experienced and the reason I am now going to raise my daughter on my own without my parents or her dad. …
This article was originally posted here.
