What Would You Do If Your Child Said, 'I'm Gay'?
7. Confide in Trusted Friends and Ideally a Pastor. "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up" (Eccl. 4:9-10). The Christian life was never intended to be lived in isolation but rather true community. Pray and then approach those you trust so they can hold up your arms during this season.
8. Consider Contacting "Lead Them Home Ministry" (leadthemhome.org) For Supplemental Help. This wonderful ministry trains church leaders and families how to minister to those with same-sex attraction. Their "Posture Shift" seminar and "Family Care" support team can come alongside of those in need until they find their breakthrough.
9. Extend Compassion and Care to Your Child Without Compromising or Condoning the Homosexual Lifestyle. God requires absolute purity before marriage and total fidelity in marriage, as He ordained it, between one man and one woman. All sex outside of covenant marriage is sin, strictly prohibited, including ALL homosexual involvement.
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When a child casually or flippantly says, "I'm coming out - I'm gay. I'm just affirming who I really am" a parent has a solemn responsibility to charitably and clearly set the standard straight. "As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord" (Joshua 24:15).
At God's appointed time, ideally the father in a united front with the mother must resist any manipulation or intimidation and state something like the following: "My son/daughter, we love you more than you can imagine and God allowed us as a couple to unite in a procreative act that brought you into this world. Your thinking is totally unacceptable to God and us. It dishonors our Lord Jesus Christ, who died on the cross to save us from our sins. It is contradictory to His eternal plan for marriage, which has been upheld for over 5000 years of Western civilization. Therefore this "coming out" needs to be a coming out of deception and, like the prodigal son, returning to the God and Father who created you, loves you and has a wonderful destiny for your life. Have we made ourselves perfectly clear?"
10. Never Forget Your Child is Jesus Christ's Purchased Possession Whom He Loves Immensely and Will Fight to Rescue From This Deception. No matter what the culture conveys about the beauty and finality of homosexuality, it is built upon lies propagated by Satan himself. Only God knows how many hundreds of thousands of formerly deceived men and women have been set free from the bondage of this sinful and shameful lifestyle through the proclamation of the gospel and biblical truth.
My Christian brother, Stephen Bennett, was entrapped in a lifestyle of depression, drugs and homosexuality where he gave himself to more than 100 homosexual partners (many of whom are now dead from HIV/AIDS). He was born again in 1992. Today he lives a liberated life with his beautiful wife of over two decades and their two children. His full-time ministry is helping reach those identifying as LGBT (SBMinistries.org). What God has done for him and others, He can do for you!
"Don't you realize that this is not the way to live? Unjust people who don't care about God will not be joining in his kingdom. Those who use and abuse each other, use and abuse sex, use and abuse the earth and everything in it, don't qualify as citizens in God's kingdom. A number of you know from experience what I'm talking about, for not so long ago you were on that list. Since then you've been cleaned up and given a fresh start by Jesus, our Master, our Messiah, and by our God present in us, the Spirit."
I Cor.6:9-11 The Message
