Joe Beam

CP Guest Columnist

Latest

Jul 5, 2014
Settling for Less: Pseudo-Intimacy
No matter your love language, nothing speaks love more deeply than someone who knows your deepest, darkest secrets and yet still believes in you. You, along with every human heart, long to have someone who knows you, flaws and all, and still accepts you and cares for you.
Jul 4, 2014
Should I Be Concerned My Husband Spends Time With Other Women?
I personally think that in most situations it is a bad idea for any married person to have lunch with a person of the opposite gender. Groups are one thing; lunch with just one other is another.
Dec 30, 2013
How to Change Your Husband or Wife
Unfortunately, statements like this have become 'the norm' in modern day society. Lunch out with the girls easily turns into listing all the things they want to change about their husbands. An all-male poker night leads to the unveiling of marital dissatisfaction. Even during workplace conversations and dinner out with friends, people openly reveal what they wish their spouse would change about themselves. What is worse is that spouses even say these things to each other.
Dec 9, 2013
Bossy Spouse
Though it may appear minor, this indicates a possible major flaw in your relationship that can lead to extreme trouble. Often when one spouse continually tells the other what to do, or how to do it, he seldom realizes the destructive effect on the other. Every couple in crisis I have helped had one spouse attempting to control the other's actions, thoughts, feelings, or beliefs, apparently never grasping the resentment swelling within the other until it finally exploded into rage, violence, adul
Nov 30, 2013
Controlling Spouse Assessment and Evaluation
If you feel your spouse controls or dominates you, complete the following self-scoring assessment for insight into your situation. Examine each statement above that you scored a 4 or higher. These may indicate areas where you feel your spouse tries to control or dominate you.
Nov 25, 2013
Is Your Husband or Wife Having an Affair?
"I think he's seeing someone else. My heart says he is but I don't have any proof. I finally asked. Made him mad. Said I was crazy. But I still worry that he is. How can I know if he's having an affair?"
Nov 6, 2013
Dealing With a Spouse's Sexual Past (Or Your Own)
"Couples who've had sex before marriage will inevitably have sexual difficulties in marriage." That's what I, a marriage expert and chairman of MarriageHelper.com, said to a large audience of married couples. Through my work with thousands of couples, I've learned that the emotional results of premarital sex can negatively affect many aspects of a marriage.
Nov 1, 2013
7 Tips to Be an Awesome Husband
Even the greatest athlete benefits from coaching. Though I realize that husbands reading this likely are already awesome, I offer these tips as a marriage coach. Use them to go from great to glorious in seven easy steps.
Oct 19, 2013
How to Decide Whether to Divorce or Reconcile With an Unfaithful Spouse
"Everybody in my family tells me to divorce her. My Mom will be furious if I don't. She called Shelly some pretty bad names. Called the guy she was involved with worse names. She insists that I file immediately." "Why haven't you?" I asked.
Oct 17, 2013
The Benefits of Adultery
"God will bless us if we divorce our mates and marry each other. It's right there in the Bible." "Really?" I replied. "Please enlighten me." "David and Bathsheba" he said. "They committed adultery, which was wrong, but God saw their great love for each other and gave her to David as his wife. He blessed David's life after that." That is when I walked him through that Bible story from first to last.